Doctor got an attitude? A little too much tough love? What do you do?

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2014-06-08 19:00:03 -0500
Started 2013-09-06 22:08:21 -0500

I recently had an experience with a doctor who was incredibly rude and confrontational. This was only my first consultation with him. I was so surprised that I wasn’t sure how to react. Where is this coming from?, I asked myself. Needless to say, I decided not to risk having to go through this again, so I didn’t return. But that was a first experience, and it wasn’t that hard to find somebody else minus all the attitude.

But I had to wonder how I might have reacted if he was the only person who could treat my condition, or if my healthcare plan limited my options, or he had been my regular provider.

Have you had one of those days when you feel like you got the “bum’s rush from your doctor? Maybe a quick once-over and sent on your way?

Or, you got a lecture that bordered on a good scolding?

Maybe a lot of those days?

Sure, your doctor may be doing a good job of managing your condition. But wow, the attitude that goes along with it!

Have you ever felt like your doctor was unnecessarily unkind, scolding, or just plain rude?

On those days when your doctor isn’t exactly a shining example of bedside manner and compassion, what do you do? Putting up with it? Hoping the next time goes better?

I recently wrote an article on dealing with rude or scolding doctors. Here’s a link:

I’m interested in knowing if you have had this experience. And how you have handled it. If you said something, or if you let it go.

Communicating with your doctor is not only about what is said but how it is said.

4 replies

lebarron1 2014-06-04 16:48:53 -0500 Report

I have a nurse i see,but they push pills just like the doctors too,i do not like that,i am taking vitamins and trying to lose weight too.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2014-06-08 19:00:03 -0500 Report

Hi lebarron, thanks a lot for checking in here. All those pills, that seems to be the model for most health professionals. Vitamins are a good idea, though it's also a good idea to check with your doctor to make sure they won't interact with your medications. Losing weight -- keep up the good work. Gary

asorcita 2013-10-31 11:06:26 -0500 Report

Totally agree with you. The sensitivity with patient care is the most important factor in the treatment and how confident you be with. Every body need a touch of love and care mostly is a person that may be one day going to be a patient!!! Taken time to hear your patient feeling and a gentle touch working better than a bunch of medication…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2013-11-09 14:21:36 -0600 Report

Hi asorcita,

Thanks a lot for checking in. Showing respect and kindness can go a long way toward building a trusting relationship. Doctors are smart but sometimes they still have a lot to learn about communicating with their patients.


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