By Gulcherboy Latest Reply 2013-09-07 18:51:14 -0500
Started 2013-08-09 17:02:50 -0500

I have been diagnosed with CHF and recently was placed on disability. Now, it is time to turn in my "retirement/quitting" notice to my employer — much earlier than I had ever anticipated. My gosh! I never expected it to be this difficult! How much notice should I give? When should I set my last day? Will they start ignoring my availability and scheduling me for whenever they want? Mostly, since I was six years old, holding a job has been a cornerstone for defining a successful person and now we're talking about my not working again. While I have a vision for what I want this retirement to be like, how many things can go wrong and screw up my vision? Worry breeds fear breeds an upset stomach which breed worrying which breeds …

It's not supposed to be this hard, is it?

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Maja1959 2013-09-04 20:57:50 -0500 Report

Dear Gulcerboy,

I don't mean to be rude. Give yourself time to feel better and then find something to keep yourself busy. I have been at this for three years. I have cardiomyopathy. My only son just graduated from high school and moved to college a week ago. I am on disability too and I have a pacemaker defibrillator.

Don't hang up the hat. I am sure you are still full of good things. Get your rest and accept what is. Just because you are feel like you are tired and falling apart life is still grand. It is full of ups and downs and is hard but life is what you make it. And I mean that in a kind way.

I have cardiomyopathy, diabetes, arthritis, carpal tunnel (surgery that didn't work), cataracts just removed from both eyes, and a dropped bladder. Yes I get tired but since my son left for college my house is so quiet. I know here in PA that I am aloud to work part time call disability where you live and ask if you can do the same. You have to becareful how much you make so it doesn't ruin your disability but you can still bring in a paycheck and still feel human. Volunteering is good too. :)

It is funny when I had my now college bound son they gave me this baby book but also said the best advice is do what works for you. That not only applies to babies but to life as well. So hang in there and do what makes you happy.

My aim for myself is to call disability and see what I am aloud to do and at least try the world again part time. I have my degree as an executive secretary. I love to do customer service and help people. I am 54. My hubby is a electrician and his work is seasonal so at least finding something part time might help some. And keep me sane and out amongst people too. It is ok to hibernate occasionally and have some "me time" but don't hide. Stay active amongst people I think that is the key when you don't feel well. And knowing that you have friends that care helps too. Keeping busy helps keep your mind off of what ails you. Even though it ails you if you know what I mean.

Stand up and find your niche even though yeah they say you have a heart disability. Let the world know that you are going to take it by the tail and be happy. Don't let the world take you by the tail and bring you down. Find something to make you happy. Your museum volunteering sounds neat. If you worked retail what about something in the customer service line but at a desk on the phone? Just thought. Good Luck! Don't worry I am not always this chipper I too have my down days too. It's been too quiet here since my son left for college and I need to find my niche in life again too. Good luck!


p.s. Don't think of it as retirement. Think of it as a stepping stone. It's only a bump in the road. And I am learning life is full of them. I hope you have a better tomorrow! Pulling up your boot straps and moving on is not easy when you don't feel well. I am sure you will do fine. My thoughts and prayers are with you for continued success and hope you feel better!

Gulcherboy 2013-09-06 23:12:31 -0500 Report

Just for the record, I detect no rudeness whatsoever in your response. Right now, everything in my life is on hold, as my second granddaughter — who is approaching only her second birthday — is in the hospital recovering from what I informally diagnosed as The Mother Of All Asthma Attacks For A One-Year-Old. Her doctors did not disagree with that diagnosis. They did their jobs magnificently and she is well on the path to a full and complete recovery. We ought to have her home in a week or two. Then, I think I'll figure out a new daily routine for myself, spend some time resting and then probably go down to the local historical society and ask if they are looking for some volunteer labor. So, I think it's fair to say that I'm taking your advise seriously and that I'm following it. Thanks for caring enough to be generous in sharing it!

And just to show how rude you are not, please allow me to close with this thought: May God's blessings flow unceasingly through your house! Pax et bonum! (Latin for Peace and Good Things!)

Maja1959 2013-09-07 07:18:08 -0500 Report

I am sorry to hear about your granddaughter. I hope she feels better soon. I am glad that she is on the mend. My niece is 16 and she has been having issues with asthma attacks in her sleep. I can't believe she is in the process of waiting for an appt. Her sister had a sleep over and one of the girls heard her sister having the attack and woke her up and went and got my sister in law.

Grandma thinks it is from the dander of her dog. Grandma babysits her and her younger sister. So grandma is always washing bedding and blankets they keep on their furniture. The next step I would suggest there is to vaccum and get one of them upright scrubbers for carpets and use it frequently. Or pull up the carpet and get hard wood floors.

I always say I don't want to be rude because for one I am writing and sometimes things in email etc can be misconstrued. I don't want people to think I am telling them to get off their butts. lol Right now I am having a hard time getting motivated myself. I would have loved to sleep in this morning but for some reason I am wide awake and tired. Idk. This is the first weekend that my college bound son stayed at school. I know he has to to learn to grow up but wondering what he is up to? At his hour probably snoring! lol Probably was up all night gaming on his computer! It is cold here in PA.

Volunteering is great. But my disability is 800 a mo and that is difficult to live on. Awhile ago I called disability and I know I can make up to a certain dollar amount without affecting my disability. I want to call them back and find out what that is again. Because since my son left for college I need to get out amongst people my house is so quiet. And the income would help too.

I recently started to crochet a baby blanket for my cousin and his wife they are due the beginning of Dec. But that is underrated. It is so repetitive and it doesn't talk to you if you know what I mean. Thanks for the blessing. Good luck with your endeavors. Hope your feeling better too. My arthritis doesn't like me this morning. Take Care.


Gulcherboy 2013-09-07 11:47:17 -0500 Report

Thank you for the kind wishes for my granddaughter. She's up and about today — we went down to the unit's play room, which she really enjoyed. She's now having her lunch and I think a nap will follow. The doctors and nurses keep telling us she's doing great — it's just a matter of rebuilding her strength and that should take another four or five days. And then, it'll be going back home (the hospital is about 70 miles away from home!) and, not that I'm ignoring your wonderful advice, but I think I'll spend a day or two on my butt! :-) After that, I think I'll figure out a new daily routine that doesn't involve going to work or staying at a hospital and then get serious about sorting out the next phase of my life!

I want to wish you only the very best of luck in your job endeavors. From personal experience, I can assure you that retail is NOT the low-stress environment you seek, so you might be better off to avoid that field.

Pax et bonum!

Maja1959 2013-09-07 18:51:14 -0500 Report

When it comes to family you do whatever you need to do for they are the most important! How old is your granddaughter? I am sure things will fall into place when you are ready.

I don't know about not pursuing retail. I use to be a cashier at Lowes. It wasn't too bad. Cashiering is not hard just on your feet a lot. I personally enjoy people and wouldn't mind some kind of customer service or receptionist job. Actually there is a Shop N Save (grocery store) a ten min walk from where I live. My son use to bag there this summer. I have my app in there. Mon I am going to call disability and see what I can do without hurting my disability and then I am going to go and talk to them. It is another cashiering job. I have not forgotten the first time a cranky customer screamed at me because the light bulbs he purchased didn't ring up like he thought they should.

I use to work for a veterans group. I ran the office for five years before they lost their state funding. I enjoy helping people. I have my associates as an executive secretary. But I have not worked for a little over three years. So my software is a little out of date. My memory is not as sharp as what it once was either. That's another reason I would like to get back out into the work force. They say if you don't use it you loose it. I am waiting to see what they say about my hands. I had one carpal tunnel surgery and I don't feel it did much. Of course it was June 21 and they say it takes three mos to see anything sometimes a year. My palm has been bugging me a lot today stinging. I can deal with it but I don't want to have #2 done without the stinging being gone. I am also diabetic and so they are sending me for nerve studies on Tues. So we shall see.

My diabetes is in control and I am off my meds. They will retest me in six mos. So that is a good thing. I find it hard to believe though that they think some of my hands may be diabetic neuropathy even though I have it in control. But we shall see. Lately, I have been dropping a lot (I dropped my external hard drive and I am trying to see if I can save my pics off of it.) So hoping my son can help when he comes home next weekend. He is studying to be a computer engineering technology.

Glad things are progressing for your granddaughter. Things will fall in place when you are ready. Take care of yourself. Where do you come up with the Latin? Did you study it in school? It is cooler here in PA my husband says "It smells like football!" lol. I personally think that summer went to fast. My son graduated high school June 4 and moved into college Aug 23.

Take Care

Maja1959 2013-09-07 07:24:52 -0500 Report

I read your other post that you had a heart attack and a stroke. My best advice is to stay amongst people you need your friends support and do what works for you. That's what they told me when I had my college bound son years ago. I would still say volunteering is great however I am aiming on a part time easy paying job stay away from stress. Just because my disability isn't great and I can use the extra money.

arkansasurviver 2013-08-22 21:28:02 -0500 Report

Hey glucerboy. I was hoping others would talk about their work situations and heart issues on here. So I guess I will start a new discussion.

Gulcherboy 2013-09-06 23:13:51 -0500 Report

Well, my heart issues ended my work situation. Is there anything in specific you'd like to know? I'm willing to share with you!

Heart-Healthy-Bob 2013-08-09 17:25:56 -0500 Report

Hi Gulcerboy. It's not supposed to be hard, but it is. When I left my intense engineering management job as a result of a nearly fatal heart attack which left me with heart failure, I chose not to think of it as retirement, but as a shift in what I will do to bring meaning in my life. Frankly, it was still not what I had dreamed, but it has been good in ways I hadn't anticipated. I don't know whether something like this will work for you, but it has saved my life in several ways.

Gulcherboy 2013-08-09 17:36:41 -0500 Report

Thank you, Bob! You are an inspiration — truly, you are. I consider myself an amateur historian and I was toying with the idea of volunteering with the local history society and maybe even working in their museum. They have a store and I have 10 years of retail experience, so it seems like a good fit. But you might have just convinced me to stop toying with the idea and actually implement it! Once again, thank you!

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