Do you ever take a minute or two to look at yourself in the mirror? I mean really look?
I’m usually in a rush to get somewhere in the morning. But some days, I can’t help but pause and take a longer look at myself in the mirror. And when I do that, I can’t help asking myself a few questions. What am I accomplishing? What difference am I making in the world? Am I taking good care of myself and the people around me? Am I doing my best at meeting the challenges in life? Where am I headed? And, of course, what do I need to “fix” in myself?
I tend to spend more time thinking about myself, where I’ve been and where I’m going, when a new year is getting underway. Maybe you do, too.
Self-evaluation can be a good thing. It’s an opportunity to take stock of yourself, to think about where you are in life, what’s working and what’s not working so well. To modify or reconfirm you vision for the future.
If you are living with a chronic condition, then chances are these moments in front of the mirror have special meaning for you. You may have additional factors that you consider as in your self-evaluation, like physical and emotional self-care, compliance with treatment regimens, any potential effects of your condition… That’s a lot to think about. (And chances are, you’ve got other people in your life, including concerned family members and medical professionals, who also have an eye on you, and aren’t shy about giving you their opinions.)
If you’re like me, moments of self-evaluation leave you with a choice. You can cut yourself some slack, and focus on what’s working in your life, as well as the possibilities for the future. In a word, optimism. Or, your self-evaluation can slip and slide into self-criticism, woulda-shoulda-coulda thinking, and regret. In another word, self-criticism. You have a choice.
Here’s a link to an article in Living with a Heart Condition to give you some ideas about how to use those moments in the mirror to give yourself a push in an optimistic direction:
Any experiences to share?
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