Retirement & "Retirement" centers

By GmaBobbye Latest Reply 2011-01-02 11:51:55 -0600
Started 2010-12-10 11:37:36 -0600

I will be moving into a retirement center the 1st of the year, going from a 2 br, 2 ba home /c full basement & 2.5 car garage on 1.5 acres to a 1 br, 1 ba apartment, no garage, and only 6x8 storage area. I am 77 and have multiple heart and other medical issues.
I adore my privacy and while the community is nice, I am not sure about/comfortable with the move.
Have others experienced this and how have you dealt with this?

4 replies

HeartHawk 2011-01-02 11:51:55 -0600 Report


Just moved my mother-in-law to a "senior facility." I know it's hard to leave familiar surroundings. Heck, even I miss not having her close even though she is now only 20 minutes away instead of 5.

But, it is a really nice place with great facilities and her sister and several friends live there as well.

Everyone else has hit some of the key points but I would emphasize two things from my somewhat more detached experience.

  1. Obviously, dwell on the new instead of the old. Remember that first house, apartment, or college dorm? It may not have been much but it was new and exciting!

  2. Your new community probably has a lot of new activities, clubs, etc. Don't feel compelled or pressured by others to join them any faster than you are comfortable with. Poke your head in, join a firend or acquaintance already involved to "taste a sample" not only of the activity but the people in it. The "right" activities have as much or more to do with who you do them with than what you do!

Enjoy the new adventure!

Happy New Year,


GmaBobbye 2010-12-10 13:26:01 -0600 Report

Thank you, griz. Yes, this will be a big adjustment, and while I know my kids are looking at my best health, it will be so hard to give up what I feel is my independence. My daughter-in-laws mother made a similar move a year ago, but going from a rural independent home to an apartment with people living just a few feet away is hard to think about.
I have gone thru my clothing, garden tools, bird feeders, my craft items and all of my personalized kitchen apliances = like umpteen cast iron utensils, and after touring the facility and tryint to figure what wil/may go where, is a hard decision,
So far, Salvation Army and Good will have received so many things, and I still have so many things. I have learned the facility has a group of quilters, so will be able to salvage $$$ worth of fabrics and craft items, and my sewing machine will go with me.
thank you for your wisdom

griz104 2010-12-10 13:05:24 -0600 Report

I am sure that you will be just fine.. I had a very good friend that also moved into a Retirement home and was very apprehensive about the move..She loves it and enjoys the company that is always around..Seems like they are always doing something..Be it going on a trip or just to Dinner someplace.. She told me that the hardest part was figuring out what she was going to keep and what she had to get rid of.. Like you she also moved from a big house and had a ton of things..I wish you the best in your move.. it is never a easy thing to do…

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